Going through notes I’ve kept over the years.
Found this from 6/29/21: on my walk with Molly, I was checking my emails on my phone. Saw one from mom - her a/c stopped working at 11:30 last night so she called GMP. They came and told her she needed an electrician, she had a name she’s calling this morning. She’s been awake since 11:30. I tried calling her but no answer. I texted Pat to ask her to try because I was 45 mins from home. So what I’m wondering today is why didn’t I see that something was very wrong 😢
Nov 6 - Tom S called me from Hannaford, ambulance there for my mother. I came from my retreat. Stayed most of day with mom at RRMC. She is fine, and going home.
Nov 8 - Kenny with mom, she says she can’t get dressed, needs help to get up and move, Kenny can’t and I can’t lift her. Called her doctor, said call EMT for transfer to RRMC for assessment. When she’s discharged will go to a rehab to regain strength.
Nov 2021 - while mom at the Pines, I went 2, sometimes 3 times a day, and she always says what did you bring me. I bring her magazines and candy, which is adding up. She calls me 3-4 times a day too. This is so very hard.
When I told her I’m going to Chris’s for thanksgiving and would be gone thurs & fri (we are staying overnight), she said I want you here.
12/9/21 talked with Amanda from VNA, she is great, told her I’m out of town babysitting my grandson on fridays. Told her I ordered the bed rail from Amazon, supposed to arrive tomorrow at her house. White board on wall in kitchen so she knows what day it is.
12/15/21 - Marty McDonough called. Went in mom’s house, stove was left on. I still cannot move without John holding me up. I can crawl on the floor slowly. He doesn’t leave me alone. Yesterday it was her sink is backed up. I called pines left voicemail to see if she can go back. 😞
12/12/21 things went very bad. I collapsed on the ground while out for a walk, had to have EMTs transport me to RRMC, in ER 6+ hours, very bad vertigo. Sent me home because too much Covid in the hospital.
12/20/21 Rob C texted - bringing mom meatloaf, Potatoes and soup
1/11/22 Rob c bringing mom minestrone soup
1/28/22 - finally a schedule
Monday Ella 8-10:45
Tuesday amber 9-3
Wed Ella 11-4
Thursday Amber 11-3
Fri Ella 11-5
Personal care, housekeeping, doctors appts
2/1/22 EMT’s to moms house twice today. First time refused to get out of aides car. Aide called EMTs. When Tom called to say ambulance there again, I got disoriented and fell onto couch/floor. The stress is weird,y affecting me. ER calling me with test results
2/3/22 trying to find a bed - Tom found her on floor again. EMTs I called John at work, both of us there too.
2/4/22 Aide 7am snowed in, I need to go until someone can be there at 12:30. Asked Ella her availability the next few days, will pay her cash. Melanie coming tomorrow and will stay all night.
2/5 - Marty hasn’t seen Melanie’s car yet.
2/6/22 aide had to leave, I called the person coming at 6, asked if she can come now, she will.
2/7/22 I’m at mom’s 7am. Ella hopefully coming 10-1. Then can come back 5-8. moms face improving a lot thank you God. I had to leave at 8:45. She’s alone until 9:30. I’m heartbroken over Robyn’s fb post - a few friends have messaged asking what’s going on, my hearts broken anyway and she adds to it. I don’t know who she is.
Note from Maryann McDonough - Jane be confident in what you are doing for your mother and all you are providing. You and your husband have been wonderful.This situation is difficult and unfortunately there will always be critics who think they know best and have all the answers. When truthfully, the critic has absolutely no clue. Be positive and disregard the comments and attacks. You are an awesome daughter and son-in-law. Be kind to yourself and don’t let her get to you.
2/8/22 Ella running late. Will do 11:30-6 if needed.
2/9/22 bed opened up at Mountain View. She thinks it’s temporary. I am beyond sad.
